I often write and talk about the time we spend with our children. And how we should set aside as much time as possible to be with kids and enjoy quality time together. And it is important! But what about your time? Do you spend enough time with yourself?
Look at your typical day. If you are anything like me, your day is filled with errands, house-keeping (well, at least I don’t do the cleaning), driving the kids around from one activity to another, doing business… And if that’s not enough Anja has competitions on Saturdays and Tina is having her riding lessons on Sundays.
We, the parents are so busy and overwhelmed with the things we have to do and they just can’t wait.
But do you sacrifice your time for it? Are the needs of others always before yours? And do you feel guilty if you let your family members to be on their own?
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* the name Zdravko means someone who heals:) (and Medved means the bear)
Few months ago, new teddy bear stepped into our homes. While working with EFT and the Medved Zdravko non-profit organization, it was time to get our own Tappy Bears. The kids love them and even I like to cuddle one. And because I promised Tina to make a “real” interview with her about our new toy, here it is (unedited and as it happened):
Alenka: Tina, tell us a litle bit about yourself. Tina: I am 10 years old and I love nature and animals. I attend 5th class. I also have one sister and two bunnies. Alenka: You are here today with me, because I know you have a very special toy, named Tappy Bear. How did you hear about it? Tina: My mum told me about it. It helps children if they are scared or hurt.
Few weeks ago (oh, my, how time flies) I was writing how our attitudes and our expectations form our lives. And few days ago it proved right once again. I was at the parents‘ meeting in school. Tina’s class is going to spend a week at the seaside, swimming and learning at the beach. The kids are so excited and can’t wait to go. And parents are excited as well, but unfortunately many of them in the negative way.
So after the teacher explained what they will be doing and how will they spend their days and nights (yes, they will be sleeping there) a whole lot of questions arise. Mostly really frustrating and worrying.
Picture yourself vividly as winning, and that alone will contribute immeasurably to success.
Harry Emerson Fosdick
I was working in our garden the other day and Tina was jumping and running around. The weeds were overgrowing our grass and I was thinking how our lives are much like the garden. You have to nurture it and constantly removing the weeds (negative thoughts), that are coming from our environment (neighbours, or even from air..lol).
But then when I stretched my back, I got alert to Tina’s playing. She was kicking the ball and trying to hit the goal. After some time watching, I realized she is pretending to be two teams playing against each other. “They” all ran around, hitting and kicking the ball, trying to score the goal. And the result was really tight all the time. But at the end of the game of course that Tina won and she was jumping around doing deep bows. It was really fun to watch.
I realized how kids are confident about themselves and how they think of themselves as invincible. They always win in their games. When do we loose this feeling of being the best? How come that we allow our fears and negative beliefs to overcome our winning attitude? We let the weeds overgrow our flowers?
And it happens that the same night we watched “Slovenia’s got Talent” (oh, yes, we have that one too). The winner was little 7-year old Lina. She really has beautiful voice and she is a little princess. But what I noticed the most was how easily she performed, not affected by all the buzz and fuzz around the competition. She was cute and sweet but she was doing what she loves doing most and she was also very confident and mature.
And I thought: That’s what we owe to the children, to keep their confidence, self-esteem and faith untouched.
Think about it! Are you supporting or limiting your child? How do you do it?
I would really love to hear your ideas and opinions, so leave the comment below.
