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3 Worst Words You Can Say to Your Child

3 Worst Words You Can Say to Your Child

Can you imagine what they are? No, I don’t mean cursing or calling him names. Those words that I have in mind are actually really polite, can be even nice and well-meaning, but they are deadly.

They will not kill your child, of course, but they will kill his ambition, his dreams and his motivation. And those are the things that we as a parents need to empower. What would happen to your child, when he grows up and find himself in the life with no future, no motivation, no inspiration and nothing to look after? He might just be dead as well.

And what are those 3 words?

Sweet Little Lies

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Sweet Little Lies

Every evening when my daughers go to bed, I go to tuck them and kiss them good night. But the other day I was working on something and we say goodnight and kissed right after the dinner.

Tina said: “Will you come and kiss me again, when you will go to sleep?”
“Sure.”

But I didn’t. I completely forgot about my promise.

Next morning I was about to do laundry and while I was getting sheets from the beds, I also asked Tina to get her dirty clothes from her room. And that’s when she got me! “You didn’t come to kiss me yesterday. Otherwise you would see that I cleaned ant tiedied my room and that ther are no dirty clothes around.” Ooopss.

So, how many times are we saying or doing things that we don’t mean? Or that we say them just to go on with our lives and forget about them?

Even if it doesn’t sound much, it meant a lot to Tina. And I dissapointed her. I felt so bad. Not just because I broke my promise, I might even signal her, that she’s not really important. I skipped the ritual for other “more important” thing and it looks like I didn’t think of her at all passing her room to my bed.

Now think about your life and your situations.

Which Animal Are You?

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When we face conflicts in the families (and of course in other areas of life as well), we approach them very differently. Do you make others accept your points of view by attacking them or do you try to avoid the argument giving away your own interests?

There are different ways to resolve conflicts. Look at these animals and see how they approach them:

What Lessons Can Children Teach Us?

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What Lessons Can Children Teach Us?

What are the most important lessons that our kids teach us?

I am sure we all can say that our lives changed with the kids. And not only that, I am sure that in many areas it changed for the better. I know there can be some troubles as well, but I hope those are rare in your life.

Here are 3 most important lessons I learned from my kids:

Make It a Challenge

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Make It a Challenge

When I asked my girls to do some simple stuff around the house, they immediately started complaining: You are giving us so much to do; it’s so difficult; it will take us whole afternoon; we are having school holidays and you are making us work and so on and so on…. You know how that goes?

Annoyed with their complaining I asked: “Those are really simple tasks like taking the trash our, how long do you think it will take you to do them?”

And of course they answered: “It’s so much work! We will do these for the whole afternoon”.

I said: “OK, let’s see.”

Then I prepared a table with tasks and left some space for notes. When they start performing those little tasks, I measured time and as you might imagine they did everything in 15 minutes. But it was fun and because of that it was not so difficult to do.

So, next time you want something from your kids, make it a challenge:

  1. Measure how much time something will take them to do
  2. Make a competition – who will be first to finish the tasks
  3. Let them guess how much time will they need for the task and see how close they got
  4. Set a time goal and see if they can perform within the specified time frame

Just like the kids learn through play and the play is their job, it will be so much easier if you make their “job” a play. Let them do something at their own pace and even their own way. As long as it is done what do you care how it is done.

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