I’m sure you definitely can tell from my recent posts, that we are having a teenager in the house. No, I’m not complaining. She’s still great kid, we just get more than usual dose of unusual events.
Last week she called: “Mum, what should I do? The boys broke my bicycle!”
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
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Today I have a little story for you (and I’m sure you’ve heard of it; it’s from Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
How many times we don’t find the time or the will to do something of value? How much time we spend for small, everyday stuff, when the big issues are waiting for us to find the space? And when raising the children, it become even more important. If we miss the opportunity to teach them lessons for life, we will never get that chance again.
So here is the story:
Of course, you would say »No.« And of course, I know that you can only live now in this present moment. But are your thoughts in the now? Or are you spending days dreaming (or fearing) about the future or complaining about the past? If so, you are not living in the present and you are not enjoying your time here and now. Your mind is turned to the past or future.
Let me first tell you two stories.
We had an interesting conversation the other day about, I guess, the everlasting issue in the parenting – how to make your kids to clean up their rooms. You know, when you tell your kids to do it, they come up with all kind of excuses and arguments: »It’s too much to do, it will take so long…«
What I found out is that many parents, even if they are usually patient and understanding, are frustrated with this. And despite all good intentions and the »training«, the rooms seem to be always messed and cluttered.
One way to deal with it could definitely be, that you don’t put any attention to it. That you just leave your kids alone. If they want to live in the mess, let them. If they don’t have nothing ot wear, I don’t care. But I’m sure we can agree that is not really a solution. Or at least not our, »law of attraction« way, when we want to focus on the positive and teach kids with good examples, not the hard and dirty way.
Can you imagine what they are? No, I don’t mean cursing or calling him names. Those words that I have in mind are actually really polite, can be even nice and well-meaning, but they are deadly.
They will not kill your child, of course, but they will kill his ambition, his dreams and his motivation. And those are the things that we as a parents need to empower. What would happen to your child, when he grows up and find himself in the life with no future, no motivation, no inspiration and nothing to look after? He might just be dead as well.
And what are those 3 words?
Gratitude
is the Best Attitude
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