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The Value of a Gift

Posted by Alenka  in Inspiration, Parenting No Comments »
The Value of a Gift

Do you remember how excited you were when you gave your mother a small gift, made all by yourself? A simple flower? And how your mother was proud of you? It was all about the attention, affection and sharing the love.

I remember when I was in 3rd or 4th grade. It was the last day of school and I didn’t have a present for the teacher. I pannicked but my father cut a big branch full of dark red cherries from the tree behing our house. The kids at school laughed at me, but the teacher loved my gift. I learned at very young age it’s not the price of the gift that matters. In fact this is one of the fondest memories I have about the school.

If you don’t have the time to do it right, you will never get a chance to do it over…

Posted by Alenka  in Dreams And Goals, Parenting No Comments »
Peppels at a beach near Nice.

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Today I have a little story for you (and I’m sure you’ve heard of it; it’s from Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People ), to remind you of the important things in your life.

How many times we don’t find the time or the will to do something of value? How much time we spend for small, everyday stuff, when the big issues are waiting for us to find the space? And when raising the children, it become even  more important. If we miss the opportunity to teach them lessons for life, we will never get that chance again.

So here is the story:

The Power of a Role-Model

The Power of a Role-Model

Teaching children secrets and values of life can sometimes be really overwhelming. I am promoting teaching through play, which I’m sure you are familiar with. But now I »discovered« another great easy way – showing them how someone else is doing it. And if this someone is a hero, a champion or someone your child admire, it’s getting even easier.

You know that my daughter is competing in swimming and just recently I bought her a book about Michael Phelps. (I have a good excuse for not buying it before:) She didn’t know enough of English to read it. Now she is willing to give it a try and I’m proud to say she understands most of it. Yet another benefit.). Michael is an exceptional athlete, winning 8 gold medals at last Olympic games.

How to Make the Kids Clean Their Rooms? One step at the time.

Posted by Alenka  in Law of Attraction, Parenting No Comments »
How to Make the Kids Clean Their Rooms? One step at the time.

We had an interesting conversation the other day about, I guess, the everlasting issue in the parenting – how to make your kids to clean up their rooms. You know, when you tell your kids to do it, they come up with all kind of excuses and arguments: »It’s too much to do, it will take so long…«

What I found out is that many parents, even if they are usually patient and understanding, are frustrated with this. And despite all good intentions and the »training«, the rooms seem to be always messed and cluttered.

One way to deal with it could definitely be, that you don’t put any attention to it. That you just leave your kids alone. If they want to live in the mess, let them. If they don’t have nothing ot wear, I don’t care. But I’m sure we can agree that is not really a solution. Or at least not our, »law of attraction« way, when we want to focus on the positive and teach kids with good examples, not the hard and dirty way.

Write a different Letter to Santa this Year

Write a different Letter to Santa this Year

You know how all letters begin: » Dear Santa, I’ve been good this year and I want….«.

Make it somehow differrent this year. Help the child explain why he thinks he’s been good. Let him describe this passing year in a really positive way.

What did he achieve? What did he learned? What did he accomplished? What did he do to others? Who did he help?

Together find positive events, when he was really happy or excited. When was he most proud of himself? What activities did he enjoy the most with his friends? When did the family have the best time?

You can even encourage some words about gratitude. What moments, people and things is he grateful for, that was in his life this year?

And finally, of course, let him ask for his wish. But again, make it more profound and help your kid describe everything he wants for himself in the coming year. What would he like to be? What would he like to accomplish? Where would he like to go?

This way the letter to Santa will not only express his demands for a certain material thing (toy, electonics, …), but it will give him an insight about all the great things he already have in life and he will certainly see his future in broader perspective.

Before the letter is sent, copy it and put somewhere you all can see it. It will be a great reminder throughout the whole 2011 to be and have what he wished for.

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