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Are You Overprotecting Your Child?

Posted by Alenka  in Parenting, Positive Thinking 1 Comment »
Are You Overprotecting Your Child?

I was lying the other day on the beach and there were many families with kids around me. As usual I was observing how the parents treat children and how the kids behave.

What really bothered me that day was that some parents were treating their kids as they were little babies even when they were already 4, 6 or even more years old.

Are you doing the same mistake? Do you always stand behind your kid and follow each step? Are you yelling: “Dress up, you will catch cold?” or “Don’t go there, you will fall!” or even “You already ate one ice-cream today, you might get ill if you eat more!”. And then there were parents who were dressing and undressing the kids. Running after them with sandwiches. Going with them to the ice-cream parlor just few steps away. Or have them wear shoes all the time.

By over-protecting your kid you are doing great damage to his self-esteem and his self-worth. You are taking away his power to do the things his way and to learn by doing. And you are depriving him of some great experiences.

And the Winner is…Me!

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Picture yourself vividly as winning, and that alone will contribute immeasurably to success.

Harry Emerson Fosdick

I was working in our garden the other day and Tina was jumping and running around. The weeds were overgrowing our grass and I was thinking how our lives are much like the garden. You have to nurture it and constantly removing the weeds (negative thoughts), that are coming from our environment (neighbours, or even from air..lol).

But then when I stretched my back, I got alert to Tina’s playing. She was kicking the ball and trying to hit the goal. After some time watching, I realized she is pretending to be two teams playing against each other. “They” all ran around, hitting and kicking the ball, trying to score the goal. And the result was really tight all the time. But at the end of the game of course that Tina won and she was jumping around doing deep bows. It was really fun to watch.

I realized how kids are confident about themselves and how they think of themselves as invincible. They always win in their games. When do we loose this feeling of being the best? How come that we allow our fears and negative beliefs to overcome our winning attitude? We let the weeds overgrow our flowers?

And it happens that the same night we watched “Slovenia’s got Talent” (oh, yes, we have that one too). The winner was little 7-year old Lina. She really has beautiful voice and she is a little princess. But what I noticed the most was how easily she performed, not affected by all the buzz and fuzz around the competition. She was cute and sweet but she was doing what she loves doing most and she was also very confident and mature.

And I thought:
That’s what we owe to the children, to keep their confidence, self-esteem and faith untouched.

Think about it! Are you supporting or limiting your child? How do you do it?

I would really love to hear your ideas and opinions, so leave the comment below.

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