I remember I was always afraid of the snakes, even from my youngest days. In Slovenia snakes are quite rare and you are not very likely to meet one. But I somehow manage to see snakes where ever I go. Last time we were at the Kolpa river bathing and enjoying ourselves and suddenly there was a snake in front of me. I panicked and we immediately left the place. We then talked to a friend who lives near the river and he saw a snake once in his entire life. My husband said: “You must be attracting snakes, you are seeing them everywhere.” And at the time I didn’t think about it until someone said: ”It’s a good sign!” I got curious and searched the net and I only found really good and positive descriptions.
Snakes mean wisdom, healing, intuition, awaking of creative forces, ability to handle change without resistance, new opportunities for change, material vitality, intellect emotional control and increased sensitivity to the environment. Really great, isn’t? And now wherever I go I am looking for snakes eager to see one.
The only thing that changed in this story is my perspective, my point of view and my attitude.
When thinking of your family life and your children, what are your beliefs that limit your happiness? Are you afraid of something that never happens? Or are you holding yourself back because someone said something to you long time ago and you stick to “the truth”?
If there is an area in your family life that isn’t quite satisfactory and you have the feeling it could be better, first examine your attitude. Be honest and sincere. Are your thoughts and actions really positive and oriented toward the improvement of the situation? Or are you expecting bad outcome and you just “know” what will happen?
Remember, your thoughts are powerful magnets. You attract situations, some would even say, create ones that are in alignment with your dominant thoughts. How many times we say: “I knew this will happen!” Of course we knew, when we attracted it:)
“Whether You Think You Can or Can’t, You’re Right” (Henry Ford)
In most of the times it is only our attitude that makes all the difference. If we are expecting good outcome, we will get it, and when we are expecting something bad, we will get that too.
Think about your attitude towards family members. Are you expecting that your kids will talk back to you? Or that they will not do their homework? That they will get bad grade?
Think then about the message you are sending to your children. They are acting in the perfect harmony with your expectations. And instead being good students, they are expected to perform less than they are capable. Do you really want that?
Try to step outside your current situation and thinking and evaluate your thoughts. Ask other family members how they see your attitude and your support. Get your friends’ opinion about your family situation.
Decide what you want to change and start with little steps. Ask for the feedback and correct your attitude until it is in alignment with what you really want. After you take some positive action you will soon see positive responses and the family atmosphere will improve on other areas as well.
