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When I asked my girls to do some simple stuff around the house, they immediately started complaining: You are giving us so much to do; it’s so difficult; it will take us whole afternoon; we are having school holidays and you are making us work and so on and so on…. You know how that goes?

Annoyed with their complaining I asked: “Those are really simple tasks like taking the trash our, how long do you think it will take you to do them?”

And of course they answered: “It’s so much work! We will do these for the whole afternoon”.

I said: “OK, let’s see.”

Then I prepared a table with tasks and left some space for notes. When they start performing those little tasks, I measured time and as you might imagine they did everything in 15 minutes. But it was fun and because of that it was not so difficult to do.

So, next time you want something from your kids, make it a challenge:

1. Measure how much time something will take them to do
2. Make a competition – who will be first to finish the tasks
3. Let them guess how much time will they need for the task and see how close they got
4. Set a time goal and see if they can perform within the specified time frame

Just like the kids learn through play and the play is their job, it will be so much easier if you make their “job” a play. Let them do something at their own pace and even their own way. As long as it is done what do you care how it is done.

Many kids start new school year at September 1st. A lot of them are waiting anxiously to meet their friends, but many are afraid to go to school. Maybe they are starting at the new school or they just don’t like their school and their “friends”. They might be bullied or ridiculed by their schoolmates.

What can you as a parent do about it? How can you help?
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I remember I was always afraid of the snakes, even from my youngest days. In Slovenia snakes are quite rare and you are not very likely to meet one. But I somehow manage to see snakes where ever I go. Last time we were at the Kolpa river bathing and enjoying ourselves and suddenly there was a snake in front of me. I panicked and we immediately left the place. We then talked to a friend who lives near the river and he saw a snake once in his entire life. My husband said: “You must be attracting snakes, you are seeing them everywhere.” And at the time I didn’t think about it until someone said: ”It’s a good sign!” I got curious and searched the net and I only found really good and positive descriptions.

Snakes mean wisdom, healing, intuition, awaking of creative forces, ability to handle change without resistance, new opportunities for change, material vitality, intellect emotional control and increased sensitivity to the environment. Really great, isn’t? And now wherever I go I am looking for snakes eager to see one.

The only thing that changed in this story is my perspective, my point of view and my attitude.
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I was lying the other day on the beach and there were many families with kids around me. As usual I was observing how the parents treat children and how the kids behave.

What really bothered me that day was that some parents were treating their kids as they were little babies even when they were already 4, 6 or even more years old.

Are you doing the same mistake? Do you always stand behind your kid and follow each step? Are you yelling: “Dress up, you will catch cold?” or “Don’t go there, you will fall!” or even “You already ate one ice-cream today, you might get ill if you eat more!”. And then there were parents who were dressing and undressing the kids. Running after them with sandwiches. Going with them to the ice-cream parlor just few steps away. Or have them wear shoes all the time.

By over-protecting your kid you are doing great damage to his self-esteem and his self-worth. You are taking away his power to do the things his way and to learn by doing. And you are depriving him of some great experiences.
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When we have our own kids, we want them to raise into responsible, accountable human beings, but very often parents limit the children’ power to express themselves and to take charge. We tell them what to do and how to do it. Some parents might argue that we are trying to protect them from the dangers of the world, but by doing so we are taking away their control and self-esteem. Parents need to learn to give the kids responsibility for their lives.

Here are few ways how you can do it from early years on.

When the kids are really small they depend on you and your care. But as soon as they can do something by their own, let them do it. Encourage their trying and efforts. Just like we are enthusiastic about walking, speaking and riding a bike, teach them other smaller tasks like dressing up, eating, putting away toys etc. with the same enthusiasm.
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Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them.

Richard L. Evans

The idea of helping others and giving is old as a world or at least since we, the human race exists. But ever since the book “Pay It Forward” by Catherine Ryan Hide, followed by the movie, back in early 2000, the real-life reaction and social movement begun. The individuals, schools and media come out with different resources and programs to promote the idea, that one small act of kindness by one individual can make huge impact on other people’s lives and the world we live in.

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“Have great hopes and dare to go all out for them. Have great dreams and dare to live them. Have tremendous expectations and believe in them.”

Norman Vincent Peale

Do you remember your younger days, when you can be a teacher one day, the next day a policeman and then an astronaut another day? You could live in the jungle or at the sea bottom. And your imagination was vivid and limitless…

Did you imagine back then your own life in 10, 20 or even more years? Do you live now what you dreamed when you were a kid? If not, do you wish you would? I read it somewhere that close to 70% of the people are not satisfied at their jobs. I am sure that a large number of them wish they would follow their childhood dreams instead that of others.

But first of all one must know what he or she wants. How could he otherwise follow his dreams if he doesn’t know what they are?

What can you as a parent do to help your children find what they really want? How can you help them discover their dreams?

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As you grow older, you’ll find the only things you regret are the things you didn’t do.

Zachary Scott

The other day, my husband was contacted by an advertising company to get our daughter Anja to a casting for a telecommunications advertising campaign. It was quite a surprise call, as it was Saturday afternoon and she never applied. Later we discussed it was probably the same casting company that filmed the ad at the swimming pool some time ago and back then Anja’s friend performed in it.

But as I might think she would jump at the opportunity, I mean, which teenager would not want to be a TV star and earn some money, she refused to go.

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Memory is a way of holding onto the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.

from the television show The Wonder Years

You know how positive thinking is important to get you closer to want you want in life. You are vibrating at the higher level and attracting positive things, people and events in your life. But sometimes when we are down, it’s hard to be positive and raise our feelings. That’s why you need to get a whole bunch of positive memories to relate to when you need them.

One thing that helps is definitely the gratitude journal. You can always go back and read what you have in your life.

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I always tell my daughters to go for their dreams, to reach for the impossible and to always try the unknown.

This last one is especially true for the food. I am really proud that they eat everything – they love vegetables, fruits, even fish and mussels. I met many parents and they were complaining how their children are picky. And then when we discussed it, it turns out that they were picky too. How could they expect from children to eat everything when they are not?

I guess I was lucky because my father was always bringing recipes home from his business trips and my mother was a great cook, so we ate all kind of things. And that’s why I love trying new tastes and foreign cuisines. And so are my daughters. 

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